Rejecting a proposal for the first time

One night I was sitting at the table and my 5 year old son looked up at me and said “Mommy, do I have to have children”... 

They tell you that kids ask the darndest questions… and holding back my shock, and the sweet tea I just sipped on, I answered “You don’t have to if you don’t want to.”

In my mind I thought… “But when you’re old enough and ready, for the love of GOD Please do, cuz I want to be a grandmother someday!”

“I don’t have to?”

“Nope” I responded

“But maybe I want to have some”

“That’s up to you and your choice of partner, son.”

“But Mommy, I’m going to marry you when I get older.”

At first, I was touched and my heart swooned that this little man thought enough of me to spend the rest of his life with me.  But then I thought… Do I need to tell him that can’t happen?  I don’t want to screw him up saying the wrong thing here… what do I say?!

“That’s so sweet love, but you should know that that’s illegal”.  

Yup, that’s what blurted out of my mouth in a moment of unpreparedness.

And then more unexpectedness happened… he got really upset.  Really, really, really upset. 

I just broke his heart… his first proposal and the kid was rejected! 

Now working with our clients isn’t illegal - you would know better than me about your client base - but remember the sting of rejection from when we get what feels like a BS excuse from what often can feel like a proposal to work together.

You ask, they say no.

OUCH. 

Now they say “don’t take it personally”... but when you’re getting too many no’s it starts to feel personal.

Whether your marketing that was working isn’t, the sales calls that were closing, don’t anymore… the truth is, it always feels better getting a YES than a NO. 

So let’s avoid asking our mother’s to marry us - because that is illegal, and instead find better fit ideal clients to ask instead.